Question from Angie:
My daughter is getting married in the fall. She has some extreme allergies. One of the more serious is to petroleum. Petroleum is found in lots of products many people use daily, such as: Chapstick, lotion, conditioner, and deodorant. For the receiving line she plans to wear elbow length gloves to protect her skin. Is there a ‘right’ way to remind guests to be cautious of this when attending the wedding?
Answer from The Wedding Expert:
Hi Angie. The number one rule of being a good host/hostess is the comfort of your guests. Therefore telling your guests what to bring, what to do, etc. is considered a faux pas. The problem is, in our present day society, guests don’t always know how to be a great guest which is the other half of the equation.
Thankfully, there IS a right way to remind guests to be cautious of the bride’s allergies. It is through word-of-mouth. The family and/or bridal party can spread the word to key people and ask them to pass the information throughout their family unit. Same with asking a friend to pass the information along to their circle of friends who are invited.
“I just wanted to remind you that “bride” has a severe allergy to petroleum, and petroleum is found in personal hygiene products and lotions, etc. We don’t want her wedding day ruined by an allergy reaction. Can you please remind your family members (friends) about this allergy? The best way to avoid a reaction is …………..”
This technique (word of mouth) is used whenever there is specific information that needs to be circulated to the guests that is not considered appropriate for a wedding invitation.
If you are having an engagement party, a wedding shower, etc. the guests invited to the event are also invited to the wedding, and that is an appropriate place for a general announcement about the allergies. Since weddings are family and friends, most of them will already know, and it is more of a reminder to “keep the bride safe”. The groom should ensure his family is made aware of the allergies, and communicate the information to them. This is an ideal task for the groom’s mother should this be appropriate in his family situation.
Congratulations on the upcoming wedding. Enjoy!
Angela Fiebelkorn, The Wedding Expert