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Do You Put A Deceased Parent’s Name on The Wedding Invitation? – Ask The Wedding Expert Answer

July 4, 2009 By Leave a Comment

Question from Kevin:

What is the proper etiquette when it comes to putting a deceased parent’s name on the wedding invitation?  Is it suppose to be done or not?

Answer from Wedding Expert Angela:

Hi Kevin.  Deceased parent’s names are not put on the wedding invitation.  This video I made on wedding invitation wording will give you the basic guidelines.

Deceased parents are usually acknowledged through a memorial candle or some other act during the wedding ceremony or reception.  The ceremony program or bulletin can have wording acknowledging the deceased parent(s).  During the wedding, which is a happy occasion, the deceased usually do not play a large part.  Acknowledgement of the deceased in done in a subtle way either through the ceremony or reception.  Sometimes they are mentioned in the speeches, and at other times, if there is a photo display of the couple’s life to this point, a picture of the deceased parent(s) will be included.

From an etiquette standpoint, at a wedding you want to acknowledge the person without drawing undue attention to the fact that they are dead.

If you have further questions, please feel free to ask.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Wedding Expert

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How Do We Ask For Money On Our Wedding Invitation? – The Wedding Expert Answer

May 20, 2009 By Leave a Comment

Question from Laura:

My fiance and I have been living together for 2 1/2 years and have no need for a registery.  How do we word the rsvp card so people just give us whatever money they can.

Answer from Wedding Expert Angela:

Hi Laura.  It is very poor etiquette to ask for money for a gift.  I suggest you go through your home, and pick out items that need replacing and put them in a registry.  Some travel agencies have a bridal registry, so you could register there.  I made a video on wedding gift etiquette that you should watch so you know the correct way of informing your guests of  your registries. 

If you have further questions, feel free to ask.

Angela Fiebelkorn, The Wedding Expert

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How Do I Word Wedding Invitations? – Ask The Expert Answer

March 19, 2009 By 2 Comments

Question from Aaron:

Hello, I am needing urgent help on the creation of my wife and my invitations.  We had a civil union at the court house and we are now going to have a wedding ceremony and reception.  The pastor doing the ceremony said we can do just like normal ceremony.  Can I word the invitations as such?  Thank you.

Answer from Wedding Expert Angela:

Hi Aaron.  The reason you can do your wedding ceremony like a normal ceremony is that it is a religious ceremony.  The only part of the ceremony you don’t have to do is the “signing of the register” which means signing your marriage license.  You have already done that at the courthouse.  Your religious institution might have a “register” that you will need to sign.  Ask your pastor.

Normally, when a couple are already married, they usually just have a wedding reception, and the wording is as follows:  ……invites you to celebrate the recent marriage of…..  Since you want to include both the ceremony and the reception, you can just word it the regular way.

Invitations start with whomever is paying for (hosting) the wedding.   The wording starts with Mr. & Mrs. I’m-paying-for-the-wedding request the honour of your presence at the marriage of brides name to grooms name son of Mr. & Mrs. Grooms Parents Name followed by when and where.  There are two schools of thought on adding the groom’s parents names.  One says their names are included only if they are paying for part of the wedding.  The other says they are included irregardless of whether they contribute to the wedding costs. 

The traditional wedding costs paid for by the groom’s family are:  alcohol at the reception, and the rehearsal dinner to name the largest expenses. 

If you have further questions, please feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Wedding Expert

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How Do We Word Our Wedding Invitations? – Ask The Expert Answer

March 9, 2009 By 2 Comments

Question from Charlotte:

We are planning to be married in May.  It will be a private wedding, but we want to have a reception after the marriage for our friends.  How do I word the invitation?

Answer from Bridal Expert Angela:

Hi Charlotte, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.  The wedding invitation starts with whomever is paying for the wedding, for they are the ones inviting the guests.  So, the invitations would state:

Mr. & Mrs. Paying-For-Wedding cordially invite you to the wedding reception of ”bride’s name” daughter of …… to “groom’s name” son of ….. etc.  If you are having the reception on a different day than your wedding, the invitation would state….cordially invite you to celebrate the recent marriage of …..

Here is some additional wedding invitation wording for you to review before making your final choice.  If you have further questions, feel free to email again.

Angela Fiebelkorn, Ask The Expert

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